Letters to Future Surrogates: Words of Encouragement from Those Who’ve Been There

Becoming a surrogate is a life-changing decision that requires strength, compassion, and a heart full of love. For women considering this incredible journey, hearing from those who have walked this path can offer comfort and guidance. Below are heartfelt letters from fictional, yet deeply relatable, surrogates who share their experiences and encouragement.

Dear Future Surrogate,

I remember the moment I first thought about becoming a surrogate. I was folding laundry, and a commercial came on about helping families grow. It stuck with me. I already had two kids and knew how much joy they brought me—the thought of helping someone else experience that was overwhelming.

My family had questions, of course. My husband was supportive but cautious. My mom didn’t quite understand at first. But after a lot of open conversations and sharing why it mattered so much to me, they came around.

The journey wasn’t always easy—the medications, the appointments, the emotional rollercoaster. But every step felt purposeful. I still remember the intended parents' faces when they heard the baby's heartbeat for the first time. That moment alone made everything worth it.

If you're thinking about this, trust your heart. Surround yourself with supportive people and lean on your agency for guidance. You're about to give someone the greatest gift. And that’s something truly special.

With love,

Jessica M. First-time surrogate for a same-sex couple

To a Woman Considering Surrogacy,

I was once in your shoes—curious, excited, and a little scared. I had been thinking about surrogacy for years but wasn’t sure when the "right" time would be. Spoiler alert: there’s no perfect time. I took the leap when I realized I wanted to do something meaningful beyond my day-to-day life.

One thing I learned: communication is everything. Being honest with the intended parents, with my family, and with myself made the process smoother. I was matched with a couple who had struggled with infertility for nearly a decade. We became a team, supporting each other through every milestone.

Yes, the hormone shots were tough. And yes, there were days when I was exhausted. But knowing I was part of something so much bigger than myself kept me going. After delivery, seeing the parents hold their baby was indescribable. I didn't feel a sense of loss—I felt immense pride.

If you're hesitating, that's okay. Just know that your heart has room for this kind of love and generosity. And you won’t be alone in it.

Warmly,

Melissa R. Two-time surrogate

Hey There, Brave Soul,

I won’t sugarcoat it—this journey can be hard. Physically, emotionally, even mentally at times. But you are stronger than you think.

I was a surrogate for a single dad through surrogacy. His kindness and dedication amazed me. We kept things professional but supportive, and it worked perfectly for us. What really got me through was leaning into the community of other surrogates. No one understands this journey like someone who’s lived it.

Take care of yourself. Rest when you need to, and never hesitate to speak up about your needs. You are just as important as the life you're carrying. And remember, your act of kindness is rewriting someone’s entire future.

Rooting for you, Brianna K.Surrogate for a single father

Dear Future Surrogate,

If you’re reading this, you’re already halfway there. You have a heart full of compassion, and that’s exactly what this journey needs.

I carried twins for a couple who had lost hope after several miscarriages. It was a tough pregnancy—twins will do that—but the intended mom was there every step of the way. We celebrated each milestone, even the small ones. I still get photos of those two toddlers now, and it makes me smile every time.

My advice? Ask every question you have. No question is too small. Stay informed and make sure you feel safe and supported. And remember—this is your journey too. Own it.

You are a hero,

Danielle P. Surrogate for twins

We Love Hearing from Our Surros at Stork Connections!

Each surrogacy journey is unique, filled with its own ups and downs, but the heart behind it is always the same—a desire to help create a family. If you're thinking about taking this path, know that you are stepping into something extraordinary. Let these words of encouragement remind you that you're never alone in this.

At Stork Connections, we are here to support you every step of the way. Ready to start your own story? Reach out today to learn more about becoming a surrogate.